Act Like a Lady, Think Like A Man

"I may dissect each little thing and put myself out there so much but at least that means that I still care. Oh! You've think you won because women are expendable to you. You may not get hurt or make an ass of yourself that way but you don't fall in love that way either. You have not won. You're alone. I may do a lot of stupid shit but I'm still a lot closer to love than you are."

I know that there are a lot of dating books out there who gives girls (have you ever noticed that almost all the dating books are targeted on women, alone?) "advice" as to how to act, how to date, how to speak, how to pick up a man, how to reply text messages, how not to do this, how not to do that, how not to expect from man, what man don't do, etc. In my opinion, these books is merely useful for one purpose, entertainment.

Oh well, maybe they are of better use for all the men around the world than for women, though they are too ego-istic and manly to claim that they'd ever heard or touched such book before. (Almost all the dating books in the world is written by a man) Well, although they haven't, these books will surely help all the chauvinist in the world in providing a huge array of women who thinks alike, who puts up virtually NO expectation from men, who is carrying all the buck, women who unconsciously gives up all their expectations/romantic dreams from men and simply demise them as "that's just the way men are" and such. For me, these books, basically serves a purpose to de-feminize women, and basically just describes them as a tool to please the men.

Men, come on, who cares that much about your expectation or the way you work? Society have came to a point where we all are considered equal, and that bigblackwolf cannot believe that us woman are still so backwards in these areas and are severely compromising ourselves to give men an "out". Let's face it, its time to tell ourselves that we can live without men, have money without the help of men, and even have babies without men.

We have come to the point where we can sit around and NOT think about what men wants, not learn about how to act to live up to a men's expectations, and certainly NOT scaling back our expectations in order to find a "man's love" and to have men "pull their weight" or to learn that we have to sleep with a man whenever they ask because otherwise they will leave us.

Maybe its time for the men to scale back their expectations as well, and to start living in the 21st century.

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Wheresoever He Was, There Was Eden.

The hardest thing to define in the world is love. Sure, there might be attempts, by many of the accomplished publishers, researches, ministers. poets; but the only thing in the world which does not have a written formula for, or a proven recipe for, is love. Thus, because of this, all human beings strive hard to find love, through various ways, such as family love, romantic love, religious love, sibling love, brotherly love, friendship love and some other love in which bigblackwolf have yet to heard of.

For the sake of the interest of all the young people, middle age people and old people alike, of course, this post is about the yucky romantic love. Only.

Does love means happiness? bigblackwolf have no definite answer about that too. Though, bigblackwolf have been told when she was young that it does; a prince will rescue a princess from some kind of trouble; and then they will proceed to their happily ever after lives. After close observations to many of the married couples in the world, we can almost see the contrary; people who have claimed to have experience love do not experience a "happily ever after", yet they do get some sort of fulfillment, joy, happiness, company, and the occasional bickering, fighting and heartbreak.

Thus, this leads to another question, does love means company then? Or maybe the willingness to forgive? bigblackwolf knew a friend that has given up on someone that he loves, so that she could be happy with the guy that she was already with. Do you think that this is true "love", that there is a willingness to sacrifice? Or would you call this man a coward for not being able to stand up for his own "love"? Or would you say that the love was not passionate enough that the man didn't dare to take the supposed risk? All in all,  from bigblackwolf's big eyes, it does seem to me that this friend do really love the girl intensely. But then again, what is love?

bigblackwolf too, have came across the feelings of love, however seldom nowadays compared to when she was young. He is smart, cute and funny, and bigblackwolf loved spending time with him. bigblackwolf does think about him everyday, all the time, and therefore dedicate this quote to him. However, does it mean that this intense feeling will last forever? bigblackwolf is not really sure where that the belief that this feeling of love MUST last forever originate from, but have no chance but to oblige to the social norm, especially when she lives in such a traditional country.

Which brings to another question. Can love only be felt with the "one" person? Then how do certain societies justify polygamy. If the former is true, then we certainly pity the folks who would never experience love in their life. Maybe next time for them, then.

All in all, bigblackwolf is also not a philosopher, a musician, an artist, an accomplished writer , nor is she close to Shakespeare that wrote 154 Sonnets that is entirely about this topic. However, she would just like to say that for this moment, whenever he was, there was Eden. And she definitely hopes that this moment will last forever. Love is what makes the world go round, after all, "great medical breakthroughs does not happen because one is a genius whatsoever, great medical breakthroughs happen, because one is scared as hell to stop trying."

For June who loved this garden, for John who always sat beside her.  

If I were a boy (Nonsence)

1. I would marry the girl of my dreams. 
2. I would become a businessman, because I love wearing suits, as it shows my power.
3. I ,like a normal guy, love hot girls. 
4. I would throw all my makeup away, since they are carcinogenic and annoying especially when you're running late. 
5. I would date many girls, actually. 
6. I would hate kids. 
7. I would relish the fact that I don't have to wear skirts. shave or use conditioner. 
8. I would like to go to those Indian Barber Shop in Little India with red, white and blue lights. 
9. I would actually exercise, because I want ladies to want me. 
10. I would be kind of a jerk. 

What about you?
The possibilities are endless.
But I definitely know that I were a boy/man, I would not be a good one, or the one that many girls hope to end up with. Therefore, I am very lucky to say that I am not a boy.

Why Wolf?

1. A wolf is mostly misunderstood, and commonly regarded as a "bad guy" thanks to many children fables such as the widely known "Little Red Riding Hood"
2. Even if a wolf is evil, he does it for survival. 
3. An evil wolf will always get a bad ending, and he would learn from his mistakes. 
4. A wolf's life is tough, as he would have to fight for everything that he wants. 
5. Nobody would sit around and pity a wolf, much less think that a wolf is cute, pretty and thus a wolf seldom gets advantage from its features. 
6. In fact, everybody assume that a wolf is evil by just looking at the word "wolf".
7. If all wolves are evil, then a nice wolf will be an outcast in its community, and thus will be shunned away and alienated.   
8. A wolf comes in many colors, many shapes and many sizes.  
9. A wolf is brave, strong and durable; because he was well trained as a pup.
10. Whenever a wolf feels sad, he runs to a mountaintop to howl, since sadness is a sign of weakness in its community and therefore is regarded as an unacceptable behavior. 

What Becomes of the Brokenhearted.

 Somewhere in June, from a physical diary written by bigblackwolf

I know that there are curious minded people out there in the world who are tremendously lucky. That leads them to asking this question: How long does it take for a broke heart to heal? Well from my experiences You never do heal from a broken heart. Just that sooner or later life is gonna smack you in the face again, and you have to pick up all the trash and move on. Deep down inside, a broken heart, like a broken China, will never heal.

I am writing this while motomoto is on the other side of the world hopefully, enjoying himself. The lost that I felt was very hurtful, for without him I have trouble making decisions. For a long long time whenever I buy a product, or whenever I make a choice, I always think about the same question "what would motomoto do?"


And it wasn't easy.  The longer I stay away from you the harder I felt I know you, much less your decisions about the smallest of things in the world. Thus I became further entangled in this bubble of misery that I would do anything to get out from. Sometime in my life, an uncle told me (albeit his motivations) "You don't need a lot of money in life to be happy!" Right now I am starting to agree John. You don't. There are just enough things that money can buy, even opportunities, but none of them, will make the sun shine brighter, or in fact, in my case, causes a snowfall in the equator.


C'est la vie, motomoto. That is my favourite phrase.
 "edited"
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Strangely, motomoto, today I woke up in the morning feeling lighthearted and cautiously optimistic about the day. Your memory had faded away and I couldn't really picture your face anymore. In fact, to have carelessly stumbled upon a diary entry that I have written long ago and felt bemused about it, have only proven one thing, I was wrong. Our heart is made up of many cells, that according to scientific theory, will be replaced after every 28 days. I guess that is one of our advantage of being human, that we still have a chance after we screw up, if we were brave enough to walk out of the gloomy dark path. Today, motomoto, I am happy. Today, motomoto, I have successfully put the past behind me, albeit happy OR terrible it was. Today motomoto, I hope that you never come back. 

If I had Rapunzel Hair

Dedicated to : Moto Moto
If I had Rapunzel Hair

1. Will it be long enough to reach you?
Wherever You are?
Sometimes, though, you are right in front of me,
But I still feel like
I need
Long long hair
To reach you.
 2. I will use lots of hair gel
To make all my hair stand straight,
 So that you can climb on it
To touch the sky.
And gift me a star.
3.  While you are gone,
You shall not worry,
For I could use my hair,
To act as a pontianak,
To scare the bad people away.
4. Though I have such long hair,
I will wash it everyday
So that I wouldn't have kutu
The good thing is that
I have an excuse to try all the shampoo.
5. My only fear though
Is that the Pantene Girl
That I see in the TV
Will attack me
And call me a bitch
6.But at that time
I shouldn't worry
Because, because If I really had Rapunzel Hair
I will be in the news
And you will know where to find me. :)




bigblackwolf's hair
Grow in the wrong places.

Positive.

Bigblackwolf thinks that although sometimes life is just a matter of  perspective and we have to try our best to be positive at all times, but there is a fine line between being positive and being delusional. If we still remain to the fact that the most positive person will be the most blessed in the world, then drug dealers will live a long, fruitful life. Sometimes in society and especially in the  place that I live in, a slight amount of negativity (there will not kill you) is encouraged, because this is the only sure sign that this person is not having an alcohol, drug or some other kind of painkillers addiction. Anyhow, we are always in a crisis, walking out of a crisis, or walking into a crisis. Some amount of self-loathing, sadness, depression and fear definitely encouraged, for of course, this is nothing but just an indicator that we are still susceptible to emotion, that we are still feeling things, that we still have a heart, and that the world is not conquered by robots. (Watching I-Robot, coincidentally, is in our curriculum).

The Noticer

Bigblackwolf thinks that the noticer is a great book and everybody should have at least attempted this book in some point in their life. bigblackwolf specially loves the part where Jones, (not Mr Jones) reinforces that we are always coming out of a crisis, in a crisis or heading for a crisis. This book is definitely relevant to people from all walks of life and provides a unique and well written view about many questions that have been haunting us for decades by giving us a new perspective. bigblackwolf thinks that the best inspiration that she got from the book was the part where Jones (which is a fictional character, in case you are wondering) gives insights and examples on how by doing little things, we are making a difference in the world, most of the time not to our knowledge. 4/5
Highligted:
1. All in all, I still maintain that I am the best friend either of you have. There may be people you've known longer than me...there may even be lots of people you like better than me...But today, you don't have a better friend.
2. Most folks figure a true friend is someone who accepts them for who they are. But that's a dangerous garbage to believe. The kid who works the drive-through at your local fast food restaurant accepts you for who you are because he doesn't care anything about you. But a true friend holds you to a higher standard. A true friend brings out the best in you.
3. All people, all lives, are either in a crisis, coming out of a crisis or headed for a crisis.
4. There are four different types of people in the world who speak in four different types of love languages.  The first kind is the dog, who feels loved through spoken words of approval, and detests harsh objections and are extremely sensitive to even a slight raised tone of voice. The second type of people is the goldfish. The goldfish feels loved through favors done by the people she loves, such as by cooking for her, mending the fence, mowing the lawn and so on. The third type of  people is the cat, and the cat feels loved by physical contact, such as hugging, kissing, ticking or even, to higher levels of intimate contact. And the fourth type of people is the canary. A canary doesn't need to be hugged, doesn't understand what we say, but wants to spend quality time with a person that it likes. A canary feels loved when a person sits beside its cage, and listens to its singing all day long.
4. Worry, fear is just a misuse of the creative imagination that has been placed in each of us. Because we are smart and creative, we imagine all the things that could happen, that might happen, that will happen if this or that happens. Undeniably, some 8% of worries are legitimate worries, but wouldn't it better if we just focus of the crisis that we have to face instead of the 92% of worries that have a slight chance of happening?
5. One way to define wisdom is the ability to see, into the future, the consequences of your choices in the present. (Best quote.)
6.Many of life's treasures remain hidden from us simply because we never search for them. Often we do not ask the popular questions that might lead us to the answer to all our challenges. We are so caught up in fear and regret, that hope seems a foolish endeavor. Proof of hope, however, is not only possible, it is an overlooked law of the universe.  
7. What is the thing that the others would change about you if they could?
 

bigblackwolfbites

bigblackwolf likes to post at night, after her inspiration and thoughts collect in a day. bigblackwolf is also nocturnal, which is knowingly frowned upon. bigblackwolf loves the pin drop silence, and can only take a limited amount of music in a day. Like a vampire, bigblackwolf hates the sun, and so frequently engages in indoor activities. bigblackwolf's biggest weakness is her inability to take risks. Like a child, bigblackwolf saw a mascot today and got really excited. After a day's work, bigblackwolf will always think about the people that she loves, and try to picture their smile. bigblackwolf wakes up every morning hoping to see snowflakes and she has a strong determination of not losing hope.

About Big Black Wolf

bigblackwolf is a person who has no clue about anything because she couldn't predict the future. Regardless, bigblackwolf promises herself and the God that she believes in that she will always try her best in the face of all kinds of adversity so that she will have no regrets when questioned by the God that she believes in. bigblackwolf doesn't understand why the earth has to spin in a certain direction, and thus she sometimes walk backwards to experience what her heart desires. Obviously, bigblackwolf is a social misfit, but she falls hard for the people that she loves. bigblackwolf's is at a point in her life where she has to write her own destiny, and her mum expects her to be happy. bigblackwolf sometimes wishes that the world will stop for a while, but because this remains an absurd idea, she seeks solace in her blog, in which her anonymity shall be protected. :)

Big Black Wolf Barks.

Bigblackwolf will first of all like to warn everyone that:
1. She was described as fickle-minded by her English teacher.
2. Some of her opinions changes frequently as they might be influenced by the weather, her dinner, the day, the people that she saw, criticisms, etc.
3. This opinions might changed over a couple of minutes, seconds, years, months etc.
4. bigblackwolf does not intend to harm.
5. bigblackwolf does not eat human.
6. bigblackwolf is bigger than a lot of animals of the planet, but she is 5"2'.
7. bigblackwolf is often severely indecisive, because she is sometimes a perfectionist (over certain issues only)
8. These issues include her breakfast, her lunch, her dinner, and the book that she chooses to buy.
9. bigblackwolf doesn't understand how people with long fingernails in all fingers write and flush the toilet.
10. bigblackwolf fell asleep with her eyes open in all her grammar lessons.